Just a little bit of oral sex Q&A:
It might sound dumb but, what exactly is oral sex? - Flame, 15
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Oral sex is any genital (to the vulva, penis or anus) stimulation done by a partners mouth, lips or tongue. Cunnilingus is the term for oral sex done upon women, and fellatio, for oral sex upon men. Oral sex has any number of other terms used for it besides cunnilingus and fellatio.
Fellatio is sometimes called: a blow job, giving/getting head, sucking off, gobbing the knob, giving/getting a hummer, sucking the root, and many more terms even I probably don't know. Cunnilingus is also colloquially called eating out, going down on, carpet munching, rug munching, chow box, muff diving, and again, others you may know about better than I.
Many men and women engage in oral sex, and find it one of the most pleasurable of sexual activities. So long as you engage in it responsibly, it's normal, healthy, safe and natural. As well, it isn't a secret sect, and the only place you're going to hear about "Oral Sex Secrets That'll Drive Your Partner Wild" is in Cosmopolitan or the like, which says things like that to sell magazines, and oddly, they seem to have such one-time secrets every single month, if that gives you a clue as to the truth of the matter.
Here are the basics, and the answers to your most common questions -- no secrets, no flashing lights and sirens, just the raw skinny on what goes on when you or someone else are going down.
by Heather Corinna
Can you get pregnant from oral sex (by giving head? - Wild, 14
My boyfriend wants me to go "down there" and he wants me to "swallow." I'm willing to, but I heard some stories that scared me and I was wondering what the real story is. I know you can't get pregnant from doing that so I'm not worried about that. I'm not worried about any STDs because we have both recently been tested for STDs and all, and both our tests were negative, so my main concern is if you can swallow it with no problems or side effects? - Shortie, 16
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You can't get pregnant from swallowing sperm, but only by sperm entering your vagina. You can however get STDs and STIs from oral sex, with both men and women. Nearly any disease you can catch from intercourse (vaginal or anal sex) you can get from oral sex, and with some STDs and STIs it's easier to catch them orally. Just because a lot of people don't consider oral sex "sex" doesn't mean it's any safer.
You should use a condom when you give a man oral sex. Just have him put it on before you put your mouth on his penis, and have him keep it on the whole time. You can make it just as enjoyable as if you were doing it without one if he puts a few drops of latex-safe and water-soluble lubricant inside the condom before he puts it on. For women, the easiest way to play safely is to use some saran wrap over the entire inside of the vagina. Again, you can still get the same sensation by using lubricant first, or even just by spitting on the inside of the wrap. Even if you're oh-so-very-sure you and your partner are safe, unless you've been together a year or more with no other partners, and have both tested cleanly for at least that amount of time twice, chances are, you're taking a risk. Unprotected oral sex is considered by sex experts to be a high-risk behavior when it comes to STDs.
Is oral sex sinful or nasty? - Luke, 14.
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It certainly isn't nasty. It's pretty natural and has been done for ages and ages all around the world. A few religions don't approve of different forms of sex than intercourse, simply because you cannot get pregnant from them, and those groups believe that sex should only be for the purposes of procreation in marriage, so for certain groups who believe that, and subscribe to the idea of sin, it may be considered sinful. However, many of those traditions have formed different beliefs to adapt to our more modern culture, and ultimately you need to think about how your religious beliefs work into your sexuality on any level, regardless of the particular practice.
What is a "blow job?" - Candy, 15.
What sort of things are expected of a girl during oral sex? You see, I want to give my boyfriend a blow-job, but I don't know what's expected of me, what I am supposed to do. - Becca, 16.
I'm 17 and I've been dating my boyfriend for one month. He is able to pleasure me in so many ways, but I am too afraid to go down on him because I don't know how. Can you please advise me on how to give a blow job and/or a handjob? - Cloudy, 17.
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Like most sex, oral sex can't really be summed up into a "put tab A into slot B" sort of instruction, because we're all different! Though our body parts may be the same, how we experience their stimulation is all over the map. But here are a few basics.
For Men:
For starters, a blow job doesn't really involve blowing. Giving a male partner oral sex, or "head," most simply is just sucking on, or licking the penis while stimulating it's base with your hand. Don't feel you have to fit the whole penis in your mouth, because you don't, and most people can't without tickling the back of the throat, which can make you gag. You can ask your male partner to help you please him best by asking him to show you how he likes to be stroked with his own hand, and by letting him know to tell you when he likes something you're doing. Make sure not to bite or scrape with your teeth too much, or to rub the penis with a dry (non-lubricated) hand, as neither is very pleasurable for most men.
I was reading an article in one of my friend's magazines and it said something about "tea bagging." I was just wondering what the author meant when they brought up that subject. - Princess, 17
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Your partner may also like his testicles ("balls"), perineum (the space between the testicles and anus) or anus stimulated, so try and be open and communicate. "Tea bagging" refers to licking or sucking testicles. Again, you should be using a condom, so spitting or swallowing his ejaculate (or "cum") is a non-issue. I should add that of the grown men I've known in my life, and of many others I've talked to, very few give half a hoot about "swallowing," especially when they care about their partner and simply don't want to risk their health just to see if they can imitate a water fountain.
For Women:
In general, like anyone else, women vary in what they like. Oral sex for women involves licking and sucking the general vulval area. In general, what you want to give the most attention to is the clitoris (link), and the area surrounding it, including the outer and inner labia, the vaginal opening and the perineum. Ask questions, and pay attention to body language: if your partner likes what you're doing, that's what you keep doing. Better still learn to talk to one another so she can tell you (or so you can tell your partner, if you're female) what you like and don't like. All in all, the best sex tip anyone can give you when it comes to a technique or practice like oral sex or intercourse is to learn to talk with your partner. There isn't anything else that can help out as much as simply learning to voice our likes and dislikes.
I'm nervous about having my boyfriend go down on me because I don't like my smell. What can I do? - Val, 16.
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Bathe regularly. That's it, for real! The scent of a healthy vagina is normal, and not unpleasant. Douching is bad for you, and upsets your pH balance, therefore only removing your natural scent shortly, and not long thereafter, usually making that smell worse, or giving you a vaginal infection which not only will smell horrible, but it'll make you itch and have masses of discharge instead. Just because a store will sell you something doesn't mean it's good for you -- it just means someone is making enough money not to care.
What is "69?" - Joe, 14.
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Sixty-nine is simply term to describe when two people are giving each other oral sex at the same time.
Will giving or getting oral sex take away my virginity? - Baby Girl, 15.
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As usual, it depends on what that means to you. Virginity is not a medical term, it is a social one. Whether you consider yourself a virgin or not isn't up to anyone but you.
Ultimately, oral sex is just like any other form of sexual intimacy. Knowing how to do it is all about how you and your partner enjoy having it done. It requires precautions and protection like other forms of sex, and you have the right to voice your likes, dislikes, desires and limitations to your partner just like you do with intercourse. There's nothing wrong with it unless you or your partner don't really want to be doing it, or unless you don't do it responsibly.
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